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Selling Out

Today, there are more preachers than ever who are selling out on the Lord Jesus Christ.  In order to accommodate worldly Christians, they begin to compromise on their convictions.  In order to entice the world to come to their churches, they compromise on God.  Instead of giving people what they need, they give them what they want; a dangerous thing to do indeed!  Like the parent who always gives in to their child and gives them everything they want, instead of what they need, they raise up spoiled, rebellious, selfish church members, who “shop” for churches instead of letting God lead them.

When preachers sell out for what is convenient instead of that which cost, they are not acting like men.  They are most probably being run by their wives.  Every Christian is commanded to (1 Cor. 16:13)  “Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong.”  This goes especially for preachers.  Why would God have to exhort Christians to be a man about things?  Because some men take the timid way out.  They are too afraid of the tough road of watching, standing and being strong.  They capitulate into the Devil’s hands.  Preachers wives are not innocent in this either.  If they were standing behind their men, satisfied to be their wives instead of needing self-gratification somewhere else, then preachers would have encouragement at home.  In fact, Preachers wives can be key to the success of the ministry of pastors.

I cannot think of one pastor who has been successful in the ministry who did not have his wife satisfied to be his supporter.  Notice I didn’t say that she “claims” to support her husband.  I mean she is a keeper at home first.  A lady who takes care of the burden of the home life in a large way so he is free to give his time to the ministry.  I do not mean an anchor who actually holds him back.  This takes sacrifice on her part so most pastor’s wives take this on as their purpose in life and are satisfied completely in it.  No man will be able to “be strong” “like men” should be when he has to be mama at the same time, but their are few exceptions to this rule.

When things get out of whack, and God has to remind us to be strong like men should be, He says it for a reason.  Not only is there a “selling out” on the home front, but their is a selling out on manhood as well.  This is mainly accomplished by worldly influence.  This is usually seen in trying to be “all things to all men” while at the same time, NOT trying to get people saved.

The devil would like to replace soul winning with anything appealing, (or even logical), except soul winning.  Charts and status and figures, all meant to be helpful, are in fact hurtful because they lead a preacher away from soul winning.  I have sat in on evangelism meetings that did not mention one peep about soul winning at all.  Oh, there was talk about development and planning in a logical and methodical way, but winning a soul was no where in sight.  Weak, worldly, feminine Preachers allow planning and organizing to replace soul winning.  As I said before, it is not bad to plan and organize, but to stop there, and not win souls, is the great demise.

It is sad that God has to remind men to “get a backbone.”  If preachers did, then they would be certainly less miserable in the ministry.  In this area they are actually putting themselves, their families and their churches in bondage.  So God has to remind us to not only get a backbone, but to, “Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.”  (Gal. 5:1).

I guess God knows our nature is to return to the worldly way of doing things.  Of course, the worldly way is a way of bondage that is hard to break free of once we are weighted down with it’s burden.  He knows that the temptation to return to doing things like everyone else would be so strong that He had to tell us to “Stand Fast!”  Is there anyone reading this article who needs to know what that means?  Is the inference not clear?  Does anyone who has been truly saved not know the liberty that comes with Christ?  Why then do Christians, (and even preachers), feel that the ministry is a burden?  Why do they feel in bondage?  It is because they have moved away from Christ.  They have entangled themselves with the worldly way of doing things.  For preachers, this may mean trying to do things “like all of the other churches do” so they can build a congregation of hapless drones.  They want to please all of the Christian prima donna’s (def: a vain or undisciplined person who finds it difficult to work under direction or as part of a team.).   They become a compromiser in the name of “being called”, but they are no more called than Jack-the-Ripper.  Instead of carrying the burden the Lord has placed on them, they would rather have the burden of worldly entanglement.  Preachers who are thus, are not called at all.  In fact they are not even preachers.  All Biblical preachers suffered persecution and loss.  Some were turned on even by their own families.  Some died stranded and alone.  Others were tortured and killed.  They certainly didn’t achieve such wonderful fates by tickling the public’s fancy.

Real preachers strive.  They strive for the faith of the gospel.  They strive for unity of the mind and spirit.  Philippians 1:27 tells us to “…stand fast in one spirit, with one mind striving together for the faith of the gospel.”  God must have known that the ministry would not be a “bed of roses.”  He must have known that it would take some fighting; a little bit of blood, sweat and tears.  He must have known that the Devil would try to get preachers to “cash it in” for an easier, more elaborate and fulfilling “ministry” than the one He assigned them to.  Preachers sell out easily because the going gets tough.  They are constantly surrounded by negative news; people always tell the preachers the bad things that are happening in their life.  Preachers are constantly being criticized and talked about behind their backs.  In so doing, the “brethren” are actually tearing down everything that they worked for while at the same time “talking it up” to their faces.  It is not a job for the weak man; and there are many of them who “think” they are called because all they see is the wonderful aspects of the job without ever delving into the inner workings.  But, when they do, they throw up their hands and surrender.

They surrender first on doctrine.  This is because doctrine divides, and it needs to be divided correctly (2 Tim. 2:15).  Compromising of doctrine is the first step to a long and lonely downhill fall away from God.  Most preachers give up on this first because it takes work; it takes a lot of time in the study to make sure you know what is correct and what is not.  So, the preacher with a wet noodle for a backbone will depend on what someone else wrote in a book and teach it before they will put in the effort to study for themselves.  It would be wonderful if they would take a pop quiz every once in awhile.  I do so by asking if the congregation has any questions.  That is when I am on the “hot seat”, and I have learned much about doctrine by my study for the answers to those questions.

After doctrine goes out the door, then everything else follows suit: (dress, music, interests, books, denominations, salvation, baptism, communion, etc.)  they become weak, sickly “sharers” of the word; and I am not sure you can even call it that.  It is ungodly (2 Tim. 2:16)!  It is manly!  It eats up the body of Christ all in the name of “being fair to everyone.”  It is in error and it overthrows the faith of some (2 Tim. 2:18), starting with their own families especially.

When all is said and done, preachers, like everyone else, are commanded to, “…stand fast, and hold the traditions which ye have been taught, whether by word, or our epistle.” (2 Thess. 2:15).  There is a tradition (Def: The handing down of information, beliefs, and customs by word of mouth or by example from one generation to another.) to uphold.  If preachers would just hold fast to that which they have been taught instead of constantly trying to improve on the plan, then the Christian world of today wouldn’t have near the problems that it does.  It is good to improve on one’s understanding of self, but the plan was given by God Himself and needs no improvement.  In fact, it is a perfect plan:  go into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature.  Win souls.  Show people how to be saved.  Train up the Saints so they can win souls as well.  This is God’s plan and there is no improvement upon it.  What it lacks is preachers with a backbone who are truly called to stand up and stand fast.  It needs preachers who won’t SELL OUT for that which is convenient.