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Parenting God’s Way

SPANKING IS A PART OF PARENTING

parentingResearchers say there is never a good reason for spanking your child. This is because social scientists decided many years ago to stamp out the evil of spanking.  Unfortunately, their zealousness to remove God from society and the family will continue until spanking is outlawed or until it completely goes out of style.  For them, truth does not matter when you have an agenda.

Man has been convinced of things that simply are not true.  He has serious misconceptions about spanking children for disobedience.  Unfortunately, most Christian parents today do not get their understanding of discipline from the Bible.  They get it from the world.  Here, we will show the scriptures that correct these parenting misconceptions.

Nothing God says in His Word and nothing said in this article makes allowance for true child abuse.  Jesus was a protector of little children and we should be as well.  Anyone who truly abuses a child deserves everything the law can throw at them.  To permanently injure a child for any reason is a wicked act and it deserves swift and exact punishment.

Spanking can be misused in many ways.  Love must still be the primary factor in parenting any child.  Spanking can be too harsh, too inconsistent, too late, too hasty and too much.  The fact that you spank your children does not make you a godly or righteous parent.  You must use God’s wisdom and always deal with the child for his own good. There will be no lawsuits where the pastor or GBC will be used as an excuse for abusing or mistreating your children.

The only absolute authority for how to raise children is to be found in God’s word—the Bible. Preachers and teachers may make mistakes and teach things incorrectly. They are not the final authority.  However, God’s word is always true.  Raise your children according to the Bible and God will honor His word.

What are the misconceptions people have about spanking.  You may be surprised to see them, one by one, dealt with in the book of Proverbs.   We must all be ready to obey the Lord in these matters of parenting.

Spanking is an Act of Hatred:

There are parents who would not spank their children until they were so mad that they felt like spanking them.  This is wrong and dangerous.  You do not spank your children because you are mad at them.  Spanking is not an act of hatred.  God says that it is an act of love.

Proverbs 3:11 – “My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of his correction: For whom the LORD loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth.”

Notice that God corrects (spanks) those He loves.  His chastening hand is proof that He loves us.  If he hated us, He would let us go our own way and head for destruction.

In fact, the Bible teaches that you show hatred toward your children by not correcting them.  Proverbs 13:24 – “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.”  To withhold the rod of correction is to demonstrate hatred for your child.  In a sense, if you do not correct your children, you are saying, “Go on; head for ruin and destruction; I don’t care.”

Of course you really love your children.  That is why you must show it by correcting them when they disobey.  Correct them by spanking them. Show them how much you love them.

In love, there will probably be times when you actually cry with your children before you spank them. This is where it is said, “this will hurt me more than it will hurt you.” Then you explain that statement by telling them that you must punish them because you love them too much to let them go the way they were going.

When you spank your children for the right reasons, it is an act of love.  Do you see it as an act of love?  Do you express your love in your time of correction?

Do Whatever You Want!

How we admire the obedience a dog shows to its master! Archibald Rutledge wrote that one day he met a man whose dog had just been killed in a forest fire. Heartbroken, the man explained to Rutledge how it happened. Because he worked out-of-doors, he often took his dog with him. That morning, he left the animal in a clearing and gave him a command to stay and watch his lunch bucket while he went into the forest. His faithful friend understood, for that’s exactly what he did. Then a fire started in the woods, and soon the blaze spread to the spot where the dog had been left. But he didn’t move. He stayed right where he was, in perfect obedience to his master’s word. With tearful eyes, the dog’s owner said, “I always had to be careful what I told him to do, because I knew he would do it.”

Every conscientious parent recognizes how difficult it is to exercise his God-given authority over his children. The delicate balance of being tough yet tender is not easy to maintain. Many parents intensify a rebellious spirit by being dictatorial and harsh. Others yield when their authority is tested. When a strong-willed child resists, the pressure to give in for the sake of peace and harmony can become overpowering.

I am reminded of the mother who wanted to have the last word but couldn’t handle the hassle that resulted whenever she said no to her young son. After an especially trying day, she finally flung up her hands and shouted, “All right, Billy, do whatever you want! Now let me see you disobey THAT!”

 Where our Captain bids us go,

‘Tis not ours to murmur no;

He that gives the sword and shield

Chooses too the battlefield

Where we are to fight the foe.

 One step forward in obedience is worth years of study about it.