Can You or Can’t You change your circumstances?

plant tomato gardenAn old gentleman lived alone in New Jersey. He wanted to plant his annual tomato garden, but it was very difficult work, as the ground was hard. His only son, Vincent, who used to help him, was in prison. The old man wrote a letter to his son and described his predicament:

Dear Vincent,

I am feeling pretty sad because it looks like I won’t be able to plant my tomato garden this year. I’m just getting too old to be digging up a garden plot. I know if you were here my troubles would be over. I know you would be happy to dig the plot for me, like in the old days.

Love, Papa

A few days later he received a letter from his son:

Dear Papa,

Don’t dig up that garden. That’s where the bodies are buried.

Love, Vinnie

At 4 a.m. the next morning, FBI agents and local police arrived and dug up the entire area without finding any bodies. They apologized to the old man and left.. That same day the old man received another letter from his son.

Dear Papa,

Go ahead and plant the tomatoes now. That’s the best I could do under the circumstances.

Love you,


Vincent was able to help his aging father even though his circumstances were not so good.  Because he loved his father, he was able to do something for him that he could not physically do himself.  He was able to do so because he didn’t allow himself to be discouraged by his circumstance.  He looked for a way to help.  He looked for something he COULD DO instead of focusing on what he COULD NOT DO.

Life is full of such similar circumstances.  Oh, we are not always going to plant a tomato garden, but there are things that are going to cross out path of life that we are just not able to do; there are times when we want to help someone, but we see that we cannot do what we would like to.  These are the times for innovation and application.  Oh, I am not saying that we should be devious and get others to do our work for us.  Vincent was that way.  He lied to get the FBI to dig up his dad’s yard for him.  That is wrong of course, because lying is always wrong.  But, if we think positively, pray and give God enough time to show us a way, we can do amazing things.

Paul wanted to get Christ preached to the world.  He had much opposition to that noble goal.  There were people going around preaching Christ in a mocking manner, trying to put a stop to Paul’s ministry (Phil. 1:14-18).  Instead of getting discouraged by this big problem, Paul saw something positive.  He saw it as Christ being preached.  He rejoiced that Christ was being preached.  He didn’t get upset, angry; of even try to get even.  He rejoiced.

Too often, Christians are leading a discouraged life because their sights are set upon their circumstances.  All they see is the evil, bad things.  They choose not to see how God is working in their life.  The classic Biblical illustration of this is Peter.  The disciples were in a boat in the middle of a raging storm when Jesus came walking to them on the water.  The Lord beckoned Peter to come to Him, which he did.  He was walking on the water just fine until he took His eyes off Jesus and began focusing on his negative circumstances.  When he did, he began to sink.

You can identify Christians who are consumed with their circumstances because:

  • They always say “can’t.”  They talk about what they “can’t” do rather than what then can do.  When presented with a challenge, they immediately begin analyzing why they won’t be able to accomplish it instead of putting their energy into thinking how they can do it.  In fact, it is amazing how quickly they discard any challenging idea.  In fact, they are thinking of themselves: what it will cost them, how difficult it will be for them to do it.  The Bible says, “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” (Phil. 4:13).
  • They always make excuses.  This goes back to not really wanting to do something in the first place.  If a person really wants to do something, and they are interested in it, they will not need any excuses because they will find a way to do it.  People do what they are interest in.  If they are not interested in something, they look for excuses why they can’t do it.  Excuses are different from reasons.  Excuses are what we fabricate when we can find no good reason for getting out of doing something we don’t want to do.  The Bible says, “But above all things, my brethren, swear not, neither by heaven, neither by earth, neither by any other oath: but let your yea be yea: and your nay, nay; lest ye fall into condemnation.” (Jas. 5:12).
  • They are undependable.  They say they are going to do something, then they don’t come through.  If they really cared, they would be dependable, but they are not.  Unlike a reason or excuse, undependability is when we flat out lie; saying we will do something when we have no intention of doing it at all.  They just tell them what they want to hear so we can get them off of our back and have no guilt.  They make a commitment, but they begin looking at the circumstance and back out, leaving the one to whom a commitment was made, hanging out in the wind.  The Bible says, “Better is it that thou shouldest not vow, than that thou shouldest vow and not pay.” (Ecc. 5:5).
  • They are “money minded.”  They are constantly talking about money; of their lack thereof.  They think that without money, they can do nothing, but Jesus said, “…without me ye can do nothing.” (John 15:5).  The problem is a misplaced faith.  Their faith is not in the Lord God, but in the “almighty dollar,” but as we know, the dollar can fail.  It has done it before, it will do it again.  People are constantly bombarded with the idea that wealth is money, but there are more important things than money:  happiness, contentment, joy, relationships and love for a few.
  • They are gamblers.  They depend on luck.  People who place their faith on luck, are the most unlucky people in the world.  Any true Christian knows that “luck” does not exist.  Everything is a design.  There is a designer and He has a plan.  When you begin looking at what you cannot do because of your circumstances, you are tempted to return to the vomit of “luck” (Pro. 26:11; Job 20:15).  The Bible says, “He that loveth silver shall not be satisfied with silver; not he that loveth abundance with increase: this is also vanity.” (Ecc. 5:10).  You tend to hear them talk about what they will do if they win “the big one.”
  • They talk about their past.  People who focus on their circumstance and look at the negative will often bring up memories of their past; memories of how they used to be able to do things.  But, now, with their circumstance changed, they can’t do anything.  The Bible says, “Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old.” (Isa. 43:18).  It does no good to dwell in the past.  Old accomplishments were for old times.  New times demand, and require, new accomplishments.  The Bible says, “…if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature:  old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.” (2 Cor. 5:18).  Because you are a new creature, and old things are passed away, any new thing you do, becomes old right after you do it.  Seconds after you accomplish it, it becomes an old thing and is part of your past.  When you come across people who live in the past (there is a difference between living in the past and reflecting on old memories), it is because the person is of an negative mind set.  They are looking at what they cannot do, instead of what they can do.  Yes, they cannot do the things that they once could do, but there is a whole set of new things that they can now do that they couldn’t do before.
  • They are easily discouraged.  When people convince themselves that they cannot do something, they become discouraged.  This discouragement is out of frustration only because they feel that they can’t do what they want to do.  Instead of looking for a way to accomplish something, they do nothing and get discouraged about it.  It is more healthy for the mind to focus on what you can do instead of what you cannot do.
  • They live a false Christian life.  In other words, they give up on Christ, but instead of going completely back into the world, they put on aires of being a Christian so that they can hide their embarrassment.  The Bible calls this: backsliding and has much to say about it.  Proverbs 14:14 says, “The backslider in heart shall be filled with his own ways: and a good man shall be satisfied from himself.”  The implication is that they begin craving and living the life that they used to live, even though they are a Christian and can never change that.  They act like they are spiritual when they are only concerned with themselves.

circumstancesAll of these reasons focus on self.  Self is extremely negative because that is the way it feels when it is being deprived.  It comes up with the message:  “What happened to me?  No one cares about me!”  We commonly call these: “pity parties.”  Contrariwise, the positive outlook pleases others.  A positive focus does whatever it can to help others.  In short, this is called: LOVE.  So, do you seek to do that which you can do?  Or do you complain about what you can’t do?


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